Grief Ritual
+ Silent Supper
To Honor & Remember
Silent Supper of Remembrance
A community gathering to honor those who have passed.
Who:
This space welcomes all forms of remembrance, whether for a family member, pet, friend, ancestor, unborn child or anyone whose absence is felt in your life.
What to Expect:
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We will begin by setting the space with intention, ritual and an invitation to the spirits
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We’ll share a vegetarian potluck meal in complete silence, each person reflecting on their loved ones and the season of remembrance
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After the meal, silence will gently lift and we’ll come together to share reflections, memories and simply listen
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We will close with gratitude and a closing ritual
Event Details
When:
Saturday, November 1, 2025
5:30-7:15 PM
Where:
HOLISTIKA
3416 Mount Diablo Blvd, Suite B
Lafayette, CA 94549
What to Bring:
- A vegetarian dish for the potluck
- Your own blanket, mat or chair for floor seating
- Journal & pen
- An item or photo to place on the community altar (optional)
Cost:
A sliding scale of $22–33. Choose the level that feels right for you, as your presence is the most important contribution.
Honoring Traditions of Remembrance
Across cultures and centuries, this time of year has been set aside to honor the departed, to sit with grief and to remember those who came before us.
Dumb Supper
The practice of the Dumb Supper comes from European folk traditions, often observed around Samhain (pagan new year). The word “dumb” here means “silent.” Guests share a meal in complete silence to honor the presence of ancestors or loved ones who have passed. Learn more here.
Día de los Muertos
In Mexican culture, Día de los Muertos (Day of the Dead) is a vibrant, communal celebration held on November 1 and 2. Families build ofrendas (altars), decorate with marigolds and prepare food to welcome the spirits. It is a joyful remembrance, affirming that the dead remain part of the community. Learn more here.
All Souls Day
In Christian tradition, November 2 is observed as All Souls Day, a time to pray for and honor departed loved ones. It is a day of reflection and remembrance across generations. Learn more here.
Our gathering draws inspiration from many of these traditions, creating a simple, outdoor, community-based way to honor those we miss and remember.
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Our Intention
This gathering is meant to create a communal space where grief and love can be witnessed together. By sharing presence and reflection, we allow what is often hidden to be honored in the open.
Psychiatrist Gabor Maté writes that trauma is not only what happens to us, but also what becomes stuck within us when grief is denied or unexpressed.
Grief, when given space, transforms. It softens isolation and restores connection. This supper is not about resolving loss. It is about allowing ourselves to feel what needs to be felt, together, in a safe and intentional space.
The Facilitators
Sam Lee (she/her)
Sam is a certified holistic life coach and archetypal astrologer who helps astrologically-curious professionals plan ahead and manage their energy without pushing themselves to exhaustion.
She holds a bachelor's degree in Religious Studies with a concentration in Buddhism from Syracuse University, gifting her with the lens to explore how humans seek the sacred by cultivating awe in the ordinary and tracing the symbols and meaning woven through all things.
Sam will be honoring her dad Jim and family-friend Steve.
Kayleigh Minicozzi (she/her)
Kayleigh is a passionate advocate for human connection, believing deeply in the transformative power of community. She infuses her daily life with meaning, drawing on ritual and mysticism to find magic in the mundane.
She holds a bachelor's degree in Religious Studies and Women, Gender and Race Studies from Syracuse University which ignited her commitment to equity, inclusion and respect of the universal thread that runs through all human experiences.
Kayleigh will be honoring her maternal grandmother Faith.
I’ll save you a seat next me,
you're always at the table.
- Alex Warren
Save Your Seat
Please register in advance to let us know you’ll be attending so we can plan accordingly.
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